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User is frustrated by matching with people seeking different relationship types (e.g., threesomes, hookups, friendship) despite clearly stating intentions in their profile. Requests features to improve filtering or make relationship goals more prominent and enforceable to avoid mismatched expectations. Also implies a need for better conversation facilitation.
I know that complaining about online dating being difficult is really well known and obvious in the current year but I reallllllllly didn’t think it would be \*this hard\*. Maybe I’m being picky but I don’t want to be a third for you and your man, I’m not looking for hookups and I’m not looking to be “just” friends (I literally had “only looking to date in my profile). \*I\* personally don’t think I’m being particularly picky. I’m not a terf, I’m open to any race/ethnicity, I’m open to dating single moms, I don’t have a body type preference, I don’t have a preference for only femme/only studs, and I’m open to long distance. I’ve tried to incorporate a lot of dating advice I’ve seen in wlw spaces, (mainly, I try and initiate conversations because not making the first move is now basically a meme in wlw spaces unfortunately), but even when I do get a match they either 1. Didn’t read my profile and are looking for something I’m not interested in (like the above), or 2. The conversations are super dry and I’m basically carrying the whole thing. The obvious solution is probably trying to meet people irl but as a non-drinker, there aren’t really any non-bar queer scenes that exist in my city. So for the time being I’m giving up lol. I’m going back to just focusing on me. Breakfast is 3 scrambled eggs, justbare chicken strips, protein pancakes, ketchup and mustard. Edit: Y’all I’m near North Florida. If you know any cool, non-bar queer lady events nearby feel free to DM me and let me knowwww plz. Honestly even if they are not super close by I will drive! (At least a couple of hours away 🫣).