Users need a way to track and analyze their feelings towards family members, especially in complex relationships, to better understand their emotional responses and guilt.
She has been a good mom throughout my entire childhood into adulthood. She doesn't deserve having a son who chokes back their distaste of her presence. I feel guilty, heavily, that she loves me and yet I don't like her. I love her, but i don't like her. It's similar, but distinctly different than simply being abused or something of that nature. She doesn't do anything worse than insult me sometimes. Sometimes I deserve it and sometimes i don't. My issue is that everything she does goes against the grain. Everything that could've been simple, will not be, if she's involved. She constantly complains about everything being a hassle but its almost always a prison of her own making. The cherry on top is she thinks her age makes her right by default. Even if she agrees with the help I provide, she will undoubtably revert to factory settings. Right back into the loop. Like chasing bugs in a game that constantly updates, you Sisyphus yourself. Its almost unbearable being in her presence due to this. I've given up trying to make things go smoothly for her but that puts me in a different hole where I'm watching someone essentially torture themself with anything that'll put them in a bad mood. If she was any younger, and could stay energized any longer, I would be on the news. She wasn't always this way. I have many many good memories. And that's the part that keeps me confused with what to do. She doesn't deserve to be abandoned because she is not a bad person and what i feel isn't because she is intentionally insufferable. To keep it shorter, this will be my conclusion. I need help trying to figure out what I'm supposed to do. I don't want to be one of those people who just suffer through, in hopes their family member gets better, or passes soon. I also don't want to be a person who jumps ship on the most important people in their life. It feels self-destructive in either case. Including staying in this purgatory. Idk. To submit to my mom's will, or to abandon who has given me life? A good one too. I'm not lacking anything but my sanity right now. I hope I don't sound like some brat, especially since I haven't given examples or shared a story. I just don't want to write a college dissertation on the dynamics of my family, unless asked. TLDR: I love my mom but I cant stand her. Used to be great. Everything I've done to help her become less bitter and over-worked has been unsuccessful. Guilt keeps me from leaving. What do?