Add resources for victims of polyamory under duress

Nobody understands. There is literally nobody to turn to. Since the APA mandated that polyamorous relationships be accepted this has become a topic I cannot bring up anywhere. Nobody wants to talk about it, I get shut down. This is the number one thing that has absolutely shattered my life. I’ve been married twice, spent my whole adult life in those relationships and both of them ended when my spouse demanded an open relationship after many years together. In the second one, at age 44, I pretended to accept it feeling I had no other option. I suffered for three years until my spouse inevitably let me for what I, and even many poly people see as a farcical talk show level situation. A “person” with 7 romantic partners. I am ashamed, embarrassed and devastated by this. I am the one who has been pathologised over this. I have received no help. Therapists do not want to talk about it, which has led me to lose my temper, which has lead to notes on my medical record that I am “extremely angry about polyamory” and not the reasons why. Nobody has helped me with my anger, nobody has addressed the shattered trust, nobody wants to know. It has become a black mark to be angry about polyamory like it’s a pathology akin to being homophobic. But nobody understands that the indoctrination into these lifestyles is like being in a cult. That the books they make you read are full of gaslighting. And nobody wants to talk about that. It goes against their guidelines. The only therapists who have written ANYTHING about the absolutely devastating effects on monogamous partners are people who’ve seen it first hand, therapists specializing in poly who the instigating partner dragged their spouse to, who then watched that spouse fall apart. Actually, just one poly therapist has written about this. And no, I’m not going to see a polyamorous therapist. I’m literally phobic now of polyamorous people.