User expresses confusion and frustration over matches who initiate plans but then ghost. They suggest a feature that requires users to confirm date plans to reduce ghosting.
Taking /texting with a guy for few months. He only lives 2 hours away, but spends half his time in DC for business. He has shared his FB page with me, etc. He told me 2 days ago he wanted to come visit me for coffee- “If you want me to. I can come any day between today and next Wednesday- just let me know what day works best for you”. I said probly any of those-what time are you thinking about and how long would it take you to get here. It was almost midnight and I didn’t hear back. Yesterday noon I messaged happy Friday….nada. So today is now day three of the seven days he says he’s available. He knows I’m seeing other guys until I feel like there’s a real connection with one of them. I turned down plans yesterday +today with 2 other guys I’ve already met once and the other like 4X but I’m feeling frustrated and confused about why somebody would get all excited then go silent. Do I just sit back and wait for him to reach out? Do I reach out and let him know that today isn’t going to work for me bc I already made plans? I haven’t actually had anybody bail on me yet with the online dating.